Contributed by Bob Rawlins, oxygen user and consultant to CAIRE Inc. ~
So how many times and variations have you heard with this phrase?
It is interesting to me anyway. I find it said very often with different meanings.
I have caught myself using it a bit differently now in my new lifestyle of oxygen therapy, doctors appointments, and slow going anywhere, LOL!
How many times at work or if you go into a work environment does this happen?
“Hey, how’s it going,” response, “Livin’ the dream.” So, I sense a bit of sarcasm at times or just the habit answer to a question asked too many times, I guess.
Are you unhappy with your work, or at home, too much stress, not sure, right?
When I have been volunteering, I generally ask the patients I see, and ask, “How are things going?” I get, “Not Bad,” “OK,” “Could be better,” or “Livin’ the dream.”
Now, that is almost always in this circumstance a sign of frustration, right? But is it much different then if you get the same response in the workplace?
Frustration, tough word, tough adjective, nothing generally is good about frustration. Either In a working environment, home, or health situations.
“In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition, related to anger, annoyance and disappointment, frustration arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of an individual’s will or goal and is likely to increase when a will or goal is denied or blocked.”
Now, that is a mouthful. I’m not sure a response of “Livin’ the dream” is always about frustration, but statistics say it might be.
We’ve talked quite a bit about emotions, attitudes, and the likes.
Frustration at work and home is tough but can be fixed. Through changes in approaches to others and being open-minded to other feelings.
Living with oxygen therapy and/or other types of disabilities can breed frustration.
And if you have always been a “fixer” it is really annoying at times. That’s me, I felt I could fix most things in my past but coming to terms with this journey has been nothing short of frustrating at times. So, I do find myself, “Livin’ the dream,” LOL.
For the most part, we can only do what we can on this journey. And there is quite a bit expected of us and its important that we do the tasks asked of us by our doctors, family, and friends. They want us around longer, no doubt!
But, drop the “fixer” part, we just can’t control the things out of our control.
This made me think of dreams – those good thoughts and hopes for the future.
I still dream, happy, and when I am in the dream, I am NOT wearing oxygen! Yep, still. Do you dream with your oxygen nasal cannula on your face?
So, when I say this phrase or hear this phrase, “Livin’ the dream,” I generally say, “Well, good for you, many are still searching for their dream.”
I get a raised eyebrow and more conversation, or a funny look and a move on.
No, my dream wasn’t to be on oxygen, have a serious lung disease and be forced to retire early. But the dream of being able to spend more time with my family, friends and enjoy some of the things that I couldn’t before because I was moving TOO fast, is a dream in itself.
We are as fortunate as we think we are. There is a dream for us all if we let it happen.
Find it and hold on to it. Build on it. Everything that happens in life is a challenge.
Turn complaints into opportunities of success!
Make the unknowns a non-scary place. Health, work, whatever. The sun will come up tomorrow!
Conquer your fears with positive energy, or happy dreams!!
My friends, we didn’t pick this journey, I know, but live it and own it! Time goes too fast!
Really start, “LIVIN’ THE DREAM.”
Love you all and my prayers go out to you all!
Till next time!
– Coach Bob
Bob Rawlins, 61, of Medina, Ohio, is husband to Terese and father to their 13-year-old triplets, a soccer coach, a hospital volunteer, and marketing guru. He uses a FreeStyle Comfort portable oxygen concentrator.
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