Contributed by Bob Rawlins, oxygen user and consultant to CAIRE Inc. ~
So, who doesn’t have frustration from time to time? What causes it?
How do you handle it? They say the key is to not let it get the best of you and turn towards anger.
Easier said than done at times, but good advice, speaking from my own experiences. Ever sense these moments of despair in life?
The telltale signs or symptoms:
- Clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth
- Stomach ache
- Increased and rapid heart rate
- Sweating, especially your palms
- Feeling hot in the neck/face
- Shaking or trembling
Is it frustration or something else?
Now, I look at this list and say, hmm …
This is like a day on the golf course some days. LOL
You missed that putt, hit in the woods, playing in the heat, and shaking because you really want to take your 7 iron and smack the crap out of the buddies who are riddling you on the course. Oh my …
But this too will pass.
One of those crazy top-to-top meetings in business.
No one in the room seems to understand your position or thoughts, or they have already pre-determined before the meeting what the direction will be despite you suggesting a pretty good case to go differently. Been there. Done that many times.
But this too will pass.
Kids, Kids, Kids, and more Kids. 😊
There are way too many instances here. My biggest one is the instrument they learn to play perfectly in high school. It’s called, “The Phone.”
Every teenager owns one and has found the best ways to frustrate their parents while on them and playing them so well. Except, I’m not too fond of the sounds it creates. “What,” “I hear you,” “Just a minute,” … you get the idea.
Welcome to technology, very needed, but something that needs to be managed by all of us.
It can get the best of us, no kidding.
So, how about our journey we are on?
Frustrated about things we could do so easily before and now we can’t or not to our liking or fast enough. There are things we can’t do anymore. However, as people age normally that happens to everyone.
We are special. Some things we can do, but more slowly. Don’t get frustrated, just enjoy the process. I’ve learned I like some things better.
I remember working in the yard was always something I enjoyed. But I had to hurry up and get things done. No time to smell the roses, so to speak.
Today, it takes me two-three times longer. But I enjoy it better.
I was always late to events, now I’m early and stay to the end. Let crowds clear and enjoy the special moments after that I never had time to see. Love this with all my kids’ functions.
There are days when frustration seems to be a somewhat normal behavior because I’m tripping over the oxygen line and everything in the house seems to get in my way. I’m tired and don’t understand why after a 10-hour sleep. I’ve planned well for the day, but nothing is going as planned. You know what I’m saying.
On days like this I’ve tried to use this technique. Pause, Ponder and Pray.
- Pause your thoughts, let the demons out. LOL
- Ponder your actions.
- Pray that your actions are strong and good.
It’s amazing to me just how powerful your mind can be.
The things you can do and accomplish if you put your mind to it. How many times have you heard that before? But I truly have seen it work for me and in others.
The mind, your attitude, can help you get through those frustrating and difficult days.
We don’t or can’t always have someone around to help you or rant to. But, we can help ourselves and laugh about it later.
Have you ever been so frustrated that you just wanted to throw your hands up in the air and say, “I’m done” or “I quit?”
Please don’t my friends. Live everyday the best way you can. Even if it’s not the best day.
I love the saying, “A bad day on the golf course is better than a day at work.”
So, get your swings in every day. And keep teeing it up every day!
Smile and laugh every day.
Love you all!
– Coach Bob
Bob Rawlins, 61, of Medina, Ohio, is husband to Terese and father to their 14-year-old triplets, a soccer coach, a hospital volunteer, band dad and chaperone, and marketing guru. He uses a FreeStyle Comfort portable oxygen concentrator and an eQuinox portable oxygen concentrator for overnight travel.